As mentioned in my previous post, my family was able to spend some time in Colorado last week with our amazing friends.
One of the things that struck me the most, as my friend Kate and I are both moms, was the lack of pressure to define herself in Colorado.
Or any other state that she has lived in.
Bringing up things like "baby wearing"
Facebook groups dedicated to certain types and styles of parenting.
We're bizarre in that state, as people just tend to be as they are.. and parenting is a bonus. Their choices are their own.. and there isn't so much definition on the "type" or "style" of parenting that you prefer.
It was so refreshing to see someone, a woman, a mom not being defined by the type of mom that she is .. or even that she is a mom.. but as a woman.
Today that is my point.
I am not defined as the type of mom I am
I am not defined as even being "just a mom"
I am defined as me. Who I am. Who I was created to be.
I honestly feel after becoming moms we are thrust into this unwanted journey of redefining and finding ourselves again.
Desperate in search of identity.
Clinging to whatever is popular, healthy, or that makes us feel "purposed"
I have a different proposition.
Instead of clinging to our titles: Breastfeeding mom, Mommy Blogger, Co-Sleeping Mom, Working Mom...
Lets re-find ourselves regardless of our title. Or even our role in life right now.
Let's Re-Discover who we are.
Let me ask you a few questions:
1. Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert?
2. What is your personality Type?
3. What are your beliefs about God?
4. What are your hobbies?
5. What are your gifts and talents that make you special?
6. What are your core values as a person?
Struggle to answer any of those?
Trust me, I get it.
Hobbies? what? Changing diapers? Is that a hobby?
No.. its not.
And honestly I could care less if your hobby is truly crafting, making non antibiotic meals for your family, or decorating your home to the max.
But if its not, be okay with that too.
My hobbies? Writing & Reading
Me? An Introvert.
My Values? Peoples Lives. Jesus. Perspective. Honesty. Inclusion.
My strengths & gifts that make me different? Leading. Starting things. Fighting for people. Fighting for Truth, being a good friend.
None of those have anything to do with the fact that I am a mom.
But when I understand these things about myself, and see them as good... I believe that it makes me a better wife, a better mom, and a better friend and leader.
Lets do some soul searching ladies.
Lets not define ourselves this week as moms alone, but let that be the icing on the cake of our lives.