My husband and I lost our first child (Mason Richard Lester) at 21 weeks pregnant due to the diagnoses of Trisomy 18 aka Edwards Syndrome.  (What is Trisomy 18?  http://www.trisomy18.org/site/PageServer?pagename=whatisT18_whatis).  

 

We did not find out the diagnoses until we went in for my 20 week ultrasound.  We were sent to see a specialist since our son's legs appeared to be fused together and there was water around his brain (my husband and I were prepared to hear he had spina bifada).  However, seeing the specialist brought even worse news for us... Mason showed all markers of Trisomy 18 (spina bifada, defects of the heart, lungs, kidneys, and stomach/intestines, rocker bottom foot, clenched fists with overlapping fingers that are hard to straighten, fluid in the brain and delayed growth).  The following week our son was stillborn.  We were told Trisomy 18 is caused by an error in the division of the cells.  There was nothing we could have done differently, our family history/genetics/age had no part, etc.  It simply could happen to anyone.  (Only occurs in 1 in 2500 pregnancies, resulting in 1 in 6,000 live births.)

 

We lost our son May 23rd of this year.  It was such a devastating loss that has forever changed our life's and will always live within us.  However, we have found comfort in the Lord taking him.  We don't understand why it happened but Mason was one sick little boy and we know he has found comfort in the Lord's arms.

 

To sum things up... some may call us crazy but my husband and I only waited 3 months after losing Mason to start trying again.  To our surprise, the first month of trying we got pregnant!  Seeing the positive pregnancy test was such an exciting and panicking moment at the same time.  Throughout this pregnancy I often find myself reciting the verse Jeremiah 29:11,  "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."  For us, it helped reaching milestones like Mason's due date knowing we were expecting again.  I am now 16 weeks pregnant with Harmony Test showing less then 1 in 10,000 chance of chromosomal abnormalities.  Our loss of Mason has taught us that every life deserves to be celebrated no matter how long they are with you.  I will forever be grateful for the opportunity to carry and love Mason for those 21 weeks.  My only regret is never getting to meet him.

 

So that is my story.  Please let me know if you'd like to know more.  If I could just help even one person not feel alone it would be worth the while of sharing my experience.